Day 1: The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret. Ephesians 4:2, Proverbs 14:29, Proverbs 15:18, I Thessalonians 5:15, James 1:19
Starting today was a real struggle for me, but persistence will pay off I hope. Last night we went to an end of summer party just like we always do. There were a bunch of idiots and drinking there (like always). DH doesn't drink any more and I can't even tell you the last time that he did drink. I on the other hand had one to many and was drunk. So, drunk I recklessly got on the front of a golf cart that could hit a peak speed of 30mph. Needless to say, someone else drunk was driving that golf cart and I got thrown from it and ran over by it. DH watched the whole thing happen, and instead of coming to see if I was alright when back to the bonfire. He still hasn't asked me if I'm alright, and it that hurts... but I must do this. I bawled in the shower at going on 2am when we got home telling myself only 40 more days and maybe things will be different. I pray to God that I'm right.
When we got up DH had in store for us the task of taking down our 12ft x 3 1/2ft pop-up pool. That was a challenge in and of itself. He kept calling me names telling me I was stupid and not doing it right. I was so proud of myself I just stood there, and continued helping him saying nothing even though I was angry and wanted to tell him off so badly. I'm not sure if he knows I'm doing this challenge or not. I know that he was way more aggravating today to me like he wanted me to blow my top, but I held strong and made it threw today and completed the challenge at hand. Hopefully tomorrow is just as well. Stay tuned.
I get the reasoning beind the Love Dare, but I'm not sure being treated by your DH is the right answer as you sit back and just take his verbal abuse. I'm pretty sure that Jesus wouldn't want any of his lambs to be treated that way.
ReplyDeleteThe thing to remember is, that while the prophesies behind the Love Dare are right and true, it has to be done by BOTH people to work right. You must communicate with each other. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.
Good luck to you. I really hope it all works out for you. I'm sorry if this sounded harsh but I hate to see women treated like dirt and they just keep their mouth shut to be the "ideal" wife and make hubby happy. What about your happiness??? Do you want to wait around to see if he might change because of the things you don't do or say or because he loves you and wants to commuicate in a positive way with you to make things better?
Things to ponder.